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Pinkolady | 13.04.2010 23:39 | Gender | Social Struggles

The anarcha-feminist conference in Manchester, organised over the weekend of the 10th to 11th April was nothing like my preconceptions.

My previous experience of feminism was back in the 80s, when feminist meetings of any sort were segregated, strictly women-only. There was a sometimes unpleasant anti-male undercurrent. And feminist groups often weren't so much political as lifestylist, and feminists as a whole were deeply divided on race and class lines.So it was refreshing to find a conference where men were admitted to most of the workshops, and which addressed the particular experience of working class feminists.

I was only able to go to the second day of the conference, but the women I spoke to who went to the Saturday workshops seemed inspired by them. Most empowering was the women-only self defence and assertiveness sessions. I have been to other such self defence sessions so I have experience of just how empowering they can be. Women can often be afraid of their more aggressive feelings (whatever their cause). Aggression, and using physical force, just aren't 'feminine' and society still tends to view fighting women with something close to horror. Learning how to release aggression, and hit and kick effectively in a safe, controlled environment can feel amazingly good.

Apart from that, the range of workshops left me feeling a bit spoilt for choice. The only complaint I have is that quite a few of the ones I was interested in clashed: the disability workshop with the one on writing and gender, stop the traffik (about people trafficking and forced labour) with the one on care work and women.

I only went to three workshops so I don't know whether the presence of men in groups that aimed to address women's issues was generally problematic. I found that the disability workshop, though interesting and useful, talked about attitudes to disability in general and not about women's particular experience. I have read articles in magazines such as Spare Rib once upon a time, which talked about how women with disabilities such as impaired vision, deafness, or a learning disability were propositioned or sexually harrassed frequently because they were seen as vulnerable and so easy to prey on. Or how one disabled (wheelchair bound) women was told she needed a psychiatrist because she had her pubic hair dyed and wanted to have a sex life. Such strictly feminist issues as these were not addressed.

I also heard from other people that two of the men at the workshop on prostitution got hung up on the 'correct definition' of prostitution and wouldn't move the discussion on when the women in the group wanted to. Hardly a difficult thing to define, surely?

About fifty people from around the country attended the final session, and only one said she would like to have more women-only space at next year's conference. She was one of the older women and I expect, like me, remembers how refreshing it was to have women only space to organise, or just to talk, away from the demands of the men you lived with (partners, sons, parents) to cater to their wants.That said, all of the men and women at the conference seemed to already have a raised consciousness about feminism and anarchism, and perhaps had enough shared experience as working class people that segregated meetings would not have been useful. The shared discussions promoted solidarity among people who were already of like mind.

Pinkolady

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interesting

14.04.2010 11:24

how you assume that we all have male partners or sons or parents in our lives.

i don't have a dad, i am a lesbian and always have been, and i don't have any children. i only have two men in my life, intimately, and they are a gay male couple who both identify as femme-fags and i would say are deeply conscious of the feminist struggle and always interested to hear my views as a woman. i am no seperatist, and i do not "hate men" per se, but i do not feel i can relate to your words in that particular paragraph.

i find it slightly sad that you give only what i perceive as negative reasons for enjoying women's spaces, ie the absence of men, rather than the positives of being in a space full of women. i hope that does not reflect all that you feel on this subject.

anarcha


women-only space

14.04.2010 17:45

I am glad this conference went well, and am gutted that i couldnt make it.
I am a heterosexual working class woman, and love women-only space. At the end of the day many spaces i find myself in are predominantly although not intentionally male spaces and it is really refreshing organise and relax in women-only space.
It is so important that men share in the feminist struggle, however i would expect any feminist man to understand and appreciate the political need for women-only space sometimes.
*by women-only i mean self-defining women-only.

not a separatist but love women only space


@ anarcha

15.04.2010 08:06

I was quoting the reasons given by the particular woman who said she wanted more women-only space. She was an older woman, and I would guess she has spent many years servicing the needs of a family and really appreciates having some freedom from their demands.
I make no assumptions about why anybody wants to have (or for that matter is indifferent to having) women only space.

pinkolady


@pinkolady

15.04.2010 18:08

You assume that because she was an older "lady" that she has spent her life servicing her family and that this is why she would like more women-only space. Perhaps the older women at the conference was childless, single, lesbian, or even straight with a family. Those of us who are female, and parents and carers do a lot more than just service our family, some of us even organise.
i know some older female anarchfeminists, and many older radical feminists who have dedicated the majority of their life to the struggle, and i would imagine that the reason they might like more women-only space is because there is a political imperative for it. many older female anarchfeminists have been in the struggle for womens liberation since the second wave of feminism and have done a lot more than just service their families.

anti-ageist


Oh for fuck's sake!

21.04.2010 22:49

This is the kind of separatist shite that made me run a friggin mile from feminist groups in the 80s.
You weren't there, you didn't hear what this particular person said.
Believe it or not, luv, most of us aren't lesbian, aren't single (not all the time anyway) and DO get pulled into the 'servicing-nurturing' role of looking after other family members needs because that's an easy, mapped-out role for women to take in society, not all of us have the choice not to get pulled into it, but hey, GUESS WHAT?, some of us CHOOSE the role and actually feel good about using our nurturing side.
We just like to have a break now and again.
Do not make out that because you did not take on a traditional woman's role that you are politically superior to women who did, because YOU-FRIGGIN-ARENT.

Pinkolady