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Speaking-out about the abuse of Arab women

Lucy Ashton | 22.05.2003 00:54

"There is a Koranic verse that says if you are worried your women will not behave as they should, you can beat them," explained Badran. "Though many scholars agree this is a metaphorical beating, there is resistance to change in traditional Islamic society."

Men take a beating over violence against women
Lucy Ashton, Middle East Times, Egypt, May 2003

Out of the darkness, a husband grabs at his wife's shirt, shakes it and then slaps her across the face hard. Her eyes fall to the ground in shame. Next, a man pushes his daughter to the floor, snatches her wrist and taking his shoe beats her about the neck and breasts as her mother watches.

These two scenes from Arab movies were a sharp reminder to the Regional Conference for Violence against Women that domestic abuse is common in the Arab world. Men often beat women and in many countries this is culturally – if not legally - acceptable.

The conference was the first of its kind in the Middle East. NGOs from 17 Arab countries met with representatives of the UN and international aid organizations to discuss how best to stop women being abused in the home, at work and by the state.

"Men have beaten women since forever," said Hoda Badran, head of the Arab Women's Alliance and host to the conference, "but everyone denied it."

No longer. Many governments in the Middle East have signed human rights conventions. NGOs are also asked to give their human rights assessment in 'shadow reports' to ensure that there is no cheating.

The Violence against Woman report has given Arab human rights groups the green light to discuss abuse in the community.

A National Demographic and Health survey in 1995 discovered that a third of Egyptian women had been beaten by their husbands more than once, some during pregnancy and with such violence that they were hospitalized. The 2000 survey did not follow up this issue because of a claimed 'lack of funds'.

It is essential that the local, regional and international agencies communicate if violence against women is to be eliminated.

All the signatures approving the laws are "pointless" said Christina Saunders, the assistant to the UN Special Rapporteur on Violence against Women, unless people understand their rights.

Female genital mutilation or female circumcision outside hospitals was banned in 1997, after reports showed 94 to 97 percent of women in Egypt were cut, but the legislation, which does not address the cultural beliefs behind the practice, is weak.

Challenging cultural norms and introducing communities to the idea of women's rights requires nerves and patience. In the case of domestic violence, organizations have to go up against many Muslim clerics too.

"There is a Koranic verse that says if you are worried your women will not behave as they should, you can beat them," explained Badran. "Though many scholars agree this is a metaphorical beating, there is resistance to change in traditional Islamic society."

The excuse has permeated into the minds of many women too, to the extent that they accept and believe they deserve to be hit.

Those women who question the legitimacy of their 'punishment' and go to the authorities still have to overcome a patriarchal society.

"Women who have the guts to report domestic violence to the police are often asked 'Well so what?'" said Badran. Many officers tell the woman to take the beating as a just punishment.

The Arab Women's Alliance is pressuring the government to put a policewoman trained to deal with such complaints in every police station. "This is the first step to making a man think twice about abusing his wife," said Badran.

"We have to eliminate the impunity of gender-based violence and make the perpetrator feel guilty," said Saunders.

NGOs are trying hard to make women aware of their rights. A network of 370 organizations is presenting women with movies and holding discussion groups to build a grassroots resistance to domestic violence. Four women's shelters are now in service.

Observers say that many organizations and local authorities do not even know which treaties their governments have signed. To implement human rights legislation, society needs to know what the new laws mean.

"By informing lawyers, judges, policemen and particularly medical practitioners, who are often the first port of call for victims of violence, we can start to change the reality on the ground," said Saunders.

The Geneva-based International Commission of Jurists (ICJ) is hoping to recruit Arab organizations into its National Implementation Project to teach judges and lawyers about international law.

The ICJ wants to help Arab nations, says spokeswoman Hassiba Hadj Sahraoui, but it questions the Arab League's commitment to human – especially women's - rights. "The Arab Charter of Human Rights adopted in 1994 provides the minimum of protection for citizens," she said.

The international community only affirmed the simple statement that "women's rights are human rights" at the fourth World Conference on Women in Beijing in 1995. Arab nations have moved fast to collect all the relevant human rights conventions, but there is a sense that the certificates mean little in society.

"The Middle East has yet to realise that though men and women are different, their value is equal," said a local observer.

Lucy Ashton
- Homepage: http://www.metimes.com/2K3/issue2003-20/women/men_take_a.htm

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uh huh

22.05.2003 10:25

Of course there's no domestic violence in western countries...

kurious
- Homepage: http://www.womensaid.org.uk/


uh...

22.05.2003 16:32

It happens in the west = it's OK?

"We should deal with our problems here before discussing problems elsewhere" is the same argument is used in favour of turning away refugees and stopping overseas aid.

What happens in the west is irrelevant in situations like this.

tom


sorry, let me clarify

22.05.2003 17:08

I'm not for a sec saying we should ignore domestic violence anywhere. I'm just saying we shouldn't fall into the mainstream media trap of pretending that it ONLY happens in Arab/Muslim countries or households. Sadly it happens in lots of places; happily women everywhere are organising to stop it.

kurious


I smell Islamophobia

22.05.2003 21:23

Why has this been posted here? If there was some sort of wider context on DV internationally, I'd get it. As it is, we're just given out of context information about the savage practices in what we're invited to view as these far off fucked up countries.

So what's "Lucy" advocating that these women do? Pray for the west to come liberate them? Admittedly, their children might get killed in the process.

But then, as "Buff" Hoon has said, they'll probably thank us for it in the long run.

Soggy biscuit


I smell sexism

23.05.2003 08:50

And what do YOU suggest they do? Shut up and take the pain?

When you say that international DV "doesn't have a context", what you mean is that is isn't the lefty cause-of-the-week. That sort of attitude is shameful.

sickened


Nope

23.05.2003 12:08

I think that what s/he means is that there's a definite agenda - particularly in the light of the daily hysterical attacks on Arabs and Islam on this forum - when we're asked to consider the effects of domestic violence in Arab/Islam societies ALONE.

If that's not obvious enough, you'd probably do well to keep your stupid observations to yourself.

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link for advice/support/campaigning

23.05.2003 15:57

Okay now we've got that sorted I'll post that link again:

kurious
- Homepage: http://www.womensaid.org.uk


"-"?

23.05.2003 21:45

Yes, "-" it's pretty clear that Domesic Violence doesn't just happen in Muslim countries. God, was I ever staggered to learn that (not).

Of course, it's still not cause-of-the-anti-imperialist-week, is it?

(Sigh)

Sickened


Don't leave us out!!!

24.05.2003 10:34

Arab women are not the only women in the middle east to suffer. Many women in the middle east and even in countries where they have migrated to or born in are forced by the culture and practice they brought with them to do things like shave their heads (and then stupidly putting on a wig afterwards, usually blond); used as reproduction machine and denied sex for anything else but, cannot meet, talk to, or even look at other men; cannot dress up, among other primitive and atrocious practices...

Of course, there are many that rebel against all these by dressing up (presumably to attract other men), having sexual affairs and so on...

There are plenty of instances where Jewish women and Muslim men fall for each other, vice versa, and there are plenty of secret or even open affairs. This is wonderful and shows tolerance and shows up the hypocrisies.

There are plenty of instances where Jewish women who think scheiss of their husbands and want to get the hell away from them are denied a divorce and left to rot forever.

Those from either faith who want to convert are often harrassed or disowned. Any Jew who want to convert to the Islamic faith in Israel would have to seek psychiatric observation. There are often panics when members of the "Jews for Jesus" lot are seen on campus or in the Jewish communities. Often quite fascist measures are demanded of the authorities against them.

And plenty is handled by the religious courts and plenty are swept under the carpet. As like many other religions there are as many cases of rape, sexual abuse etc etc. A jewish family whose daughter had been raped by a rabbi chose to take the case to the regular court (a few years ago, in London). The rabbi was found guilty but the pervert supporters of the rabbi showed their religious colours by raining the poor girls house with stones.....

So there you go......

G*d's Left hand


Sickened? I'll say.

25.05.2003 15:17

And, to imitate your fuckwit sarcasm, I too was staggered to learn that there was violence and abuse towards women in Arab countries. I'd previously been under the impression that Andrea Dworkin had been appointed as Chief Imam. (Er, "not", to use your rather passe mid-90s Bill & Ted formulation.)

Again , for the hard of thinking (such as yourself), the decision to post the article on this forum in the absence of any wider debate on the context of violence towards women internationally does make me suspect the poster's motives.

But maybe I'm wrong, and "Lucy" is motivated by nothing other than compassion and love for her sisters worldwide.

Insh'Allah.

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Calm down, calm down

25.05.2003 22:58

"-"

You probably wanna control that temper. One of us might be a 'fuckwit' but I'm not convinced it's me.

What is it that makes you *assume* an article about domestic violence is motivated by Islamophobia? Saying that it could be more wide-ranging in terms of the countries covered is one thing; in fact you have a point there. But just flaring up like that, making wild and possibly groundless assumptions, is another thing entirely.

BTW Bill and Ted are retro-chic.

Sickened


Let's see...

26.05.2003 13:04

What makes me assume the posting of this is motivated by Islamophobia. Well, as I've said several dozen times before, it's MAINLY because of the complete absence of ANY reference to or discussion of the problem of DV ANYWHERE ELSE on this forum, combined with the daily right wing/ultra Zionists seeking to demonise Arabs and/or Islam. Simple enough, really.

As for retro-chic - SO last week, dahling.

Mwah.

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Yeh, but..

26.05.2003 20:21


No, the reality is that as you've said a couple of times before, this particular article doesn't discuss DV elsewhere in the world. That's true. What it *doesn't* mean is:

a) That discussions of DV in the Middle East are Islamophobic.

b) That this article is motivated by Islamophobia.

Nor indeed...

c) That discussions here are Zionist-dominated. They're clearly not. Look at the number of "Israelis ate my baby"-type postings.

And last week is SO this week - hadn't you realised?

sickened


Well, now...

27.05.2003 16:24

discussions of DV in Arab countries AREN'T *necessarily* motivated by Islamophobia, true. But when someone starts off attributing an insubstantiated quote to the Koran, with the clear implication that Muslim men are *necessarily* women haters...hmm.

And I never said that discussions were *dominated* by rabid ultra-zionists; there's just as many rabid ultra-fundamentalists, no doubt. Personally, I think they deserve each other. But I don't want to put up with them. How bout yourself?

And as for the last week revival...starts here!

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